I can’t stop rescuing others – Why?

Most of us want to help others when we can. Whether that be giving change to the homeless, listening to a heartbroken friend or helping a family member with some DIY. For many, helping gives us reward and purpose. In the 1980s, this feeling was termed a ‘helper’s high’ – a buzz one gets from helping equating to the rush that comes with vigorous physical exercise.

How power dynamics influence your relationship

In all relationships exists a delicate balance of power. All interactions between partners influence this power, and direct the relationship a certain way. Bringing these power dynamics to the surface of our consciousness can help us to better understand ourselves and each other, and create a healthier dynamic.

How is the drama triangle used in couples therapy?

Does it feel like your relationship conflicts are cyclical and rarely resolved? Research has suggested 3 characteristics of  irresolvable interpersonal conflicts: length of conflict; hopelessness; and resistance to resolution.

How do you regulate yourself? Gain calmness and clarity when faced with challenge

A Mental Health Foundation study showed that, in a 12 month period, 74% of people have been so stressed they felt unable to cope. This is how to regulate emotions so that you can maintain calm and clarity.

Dealing with difficult emotions: What is psychological projection and how do I spot it?

Research suggests that 35% of people feel insecure in their romantic relationship. Could it be psychological projection? And if so, what does that mean?

Dealing with Difficult Emotions: What are denial and repression defences and how do I spot them?

When we are faced with a challenging emotion, it is understandably common to want to avoid it. ‘Denial’ and ‘repression’ are two instinctive mechanisms we use to avoid dealing with these difficult feelings, both of which can lead to further problems down the road. I would like to describe to you the characteristics of these mechanisms and help you to find a new, healthier way of processing painful or unwanted emotions.